Thursday, August 12, 2010

Summer Preemie Get Together - Day 2

Saturday morning, Marino and I headed out to the National Zoo to meet up with our preemie friends again. Everyone who was at dinner the night before was at the zoo, and Megan, Seth and Simon joined us as well. I have to say, we saw less animals on this trip to the zoo than ever before! The toddlers just wanted to play on the playground equipment and Marino was only interested in seeing pigs (he is still obsessed with the movie Babe).
Here's a group shot of all the mamas and little ones:
L to R
Jen and Annabelle, Laura with Cameron and Evan, Karen and Brandon, Megan and Simon, Martha and Campbell, Marino and I.
Some "flat" friends joined us, as well: Ivory and Emma, Trish and Robbie, Corey, Kiera and Claire
Brandon petting a cow
Playtime in the "pizza garden"








Cute superhero shirt Cameron and Evan got Marino for his birthday (it also has a snap on cape!)
Prairie dog tunnels...the kids loved playing in these!
Marino and Campbell
Brandon smiling, as usual
Later that night, most of us moms went out for toddler-free time (our flat friends had some drinks, too). It was really great to catch up with everyone - thanks to our friends who came from out of town!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Summer Preemie Get Together - Day 1

Preemie Power!! This weekend we got together with a group of our parents of preemies friends and (former) preemie toddlers. We had a great time and although most of us are through the toughest of times, we have a unique shared history and I really love these girls (and their kids).

Friday afternoon, we headed up to Baltimore to Port Discovery. Traffic was awful so we didn't get there until very late, but we had fun with the time we had. It was all boys at Port Discovery: Karen and Stu's son, Brandon, Drew and Laura's sons: Cameron and Evan, and Marino, of course.

Here's Marino, clearly enjoying himself...
If you looked inside of this box, there were mice inside, partying.
Brandon, enjoying a slide
Marino, enjoying the slide in a unique manner:)
There was a Bob the Builder exhibit at Port Discovery and all the boys were obsessed with this box that had buttons that lit up and "talked"...someone remarked if we all had one at home, we'd all have clean homes! Here's Cameron and Evan checking it out.

I love Brandon's smile!
All the boys in one spot!
Brandon can't believe this mess!
Cooking in the diner...


Daddy and Marino sharing a moment




Leave it to toddlers to go to a children's museum and spend half the time playing with legos;)_


On our way out, a band was setting up, so Marino was listening to the drummer practice.
After Port Discovery, we walked over to the harbor and had dinner at PF Chang's (which I love because they have a gluten-free menu, but FYI, not many egg-free options there).
Our friend's the Compton's: Martha, Robbie, Campbell and new addition Maggie came from South Carolina and met us for dinner, as did new friends Jen, Tim and their daughter Annabelle.

Here's Annabelle - how cute is she?!
Annabelle and Campbell
Campbell posing for me
Baby Maggie (born full term). Marino was not happy about me holding her...he was at the end of the table crying.
Happy Brandon

Friday, August 6, 2010

5 on Friday

As always, here are 5 special reasons I am loving my boy this week:

5. Bedtime has become a total nightmare here (that is not something I am loving!) lately. The other night, after spending an hour trying to get a very tired Marino to sleep and being repeated hit and kicked, I put him in his crib to see what he would do. He cried for about 3 minutes. Then he said "Mommy?" 30 times. Then he said "No night night" 30 times. Then he said "I want Mommy" 30 times. Then he said, calm as can be, "Mino crying" 30 times. I had to laugh at the last one (and go get him).

4. Another bedtime struggle story...the other night I was trying to get Marino to sleep but he refused. Eventually I let him down and just pretended to sleep (this usually results in him prying my eyelids open and saying "Mommy, wake up!"). He went and got this dinosaur (no surprise, right...he LOVES Toy Story!), opened it's mouth and put it's mouth around my neck. Good thing I wasn't really asleep!

3. We have a new favorite book in our house, "Slinky Malinki, Open the Door" by Lynley Dodd. It's a really cute book, and has a repetition element to it, which Marino likes to "read" along with me. When he sees the book, he shouts "Slinky Linki!!"

2. Wednesday morning in the car, Marino said "Mommy is Sawa (Sara). Sawa, watch Monsters?"
1. Marino is obsessed with popsicles. No matter what time of day it is, if I ask what he wants to eat, he always says "popsicle" (I guess he is being honest, right)? And one popsicle is not enough. As soon as he finishes one, he will announce "Ok, Mino need orange popsicle" (or some color other than the one he just ate)...I guess he thinks he needs to eat one of each flavor each time. Luckily, he still enjoys eating lots of healthy things, so we can indulge him in the occasional popsicle.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Teaching Toddlers to Read - Part II, Mom's Wisdom

I hope you enjoy this guest blog by my mother, Nancy, who taught both my brother and I to read years before we started elementary school. She has been a true inspiration to me, both in her career and as a mother. Would you believe my mother went from being a high school dropout (with a GED) to a bank executive with a MBA in less than 10 years? All while raising 2 young children (with my dad's help, of course)? She's pretty amazing.

Thanks mom for writing this, and of course, for teaching me to read (and love it!).

Here's Mom's wisdom on teaching young children to read:

Sara asked me to do a guest post on teaching small children to read, since I taught both of my children (Sara and her brother Brendan, six years older) to read before they went to school, starting in 1974. I had no formal training in education, having dropped out of high school to get married and give birth to Brendan in my teens; I later earned a BS and MBA in Finance when Sara was in elementary school. I’m providing this background to support the idea that no one needs a degree in education to teach simple skills to their own children.

When I began teaching Brendan to read, I was a 19 year old stay-at-home mother and he was 2 years old. I had bought a small-format paperback book called “How to Teach Your Baby to Read” by Glenn Doman. Brendan had some familiarity with letters from watching Sesame Street. I remember we started out with flash cards using the sight-reading method of whole words. I made the cards myself by carefully printing the words on index cards. We started with words like his name, and others from the Dr. Seuss book “Hop on Pop”. It was a game for him to learn to identify the words on the card, and then in the book. We did this for a short period every day. He seemed to enjoy it. We always read to him daily and always had access to a library, even when stationed overseas in Germany when his father was in the Army, so we had a virtually unlimited source of new reading material for him to learn words.

Later, when Brendan was 4-5 years old, I used simple workbooks for elementary school children to teach him phonics (letter sounds), so he could sound out words on his own, along with making up more flash cards for phonics games. Sight reading alone is not enough to make a proficient reader – they also need phonics. I also taught him simple math at home, basic addition and subtraction. I made sure never to push it on him or go for longer than his attention span. He always seemed to enjoy the challenge of learning. Because it was a one-on-one interaction, it was always at his pace and geared to his attention span. He also remembers dictating stories for me to write for him before he could write himself. He could then keep and read them.

I used the same techniques for Sara when she turned 2 until she went to kindergarten at 5 years old. Brendan went to a German Montessori kindergarten for part of his fifth year, but did not finish and directly entered first grade after we returned to the US without having attended either pre-school or US kindergarten. Sara did not attend pre-school either. Both children entered public school able to read several grades ahead of their peers and did well in elementary school academically.

I have always been a reader myself and was naturally inclined to share this with my children. They seem to remember it favorably as well. It was something fun and interesting to do for all of us. Also, we didn’t have much money when they were young, and this was something I could do with them that didn’t cost very much. Both their father and I read to them frequently, and we always read books to them that were well ahead of their ability to read on their own. That way their language development continued. We started reading them chapter books, one chapter per night at bedtime, before they reached school age. I found the book “The Read Aloud Handbook” by Jim Trelease inspirational on this subject. We also limited their TV watching in the elementary school years so they would read and engage in creative activities at home. Going to the library was almost always a weekly event, and they were allowed to choose their own library books from a young age, along with some I chose for them until they no longer needed me to do so. Again, the library is a free resource; for people who go through as many books as we did, it would have been impossible to buy them all.

As for lasting effects, I really believe that children benefit by coming into the school system with a mastery of basic skills. It gives them self confidence and helps them be received more favorably by their teachers. It can only be good for our children to create a favorable first impression in any stage in life. Most importantly, reading will be a lifelong pleasure and source of knowledge for those who love it.

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Teaching Toddlers to Read - Part I

Teaching Marino has been on my mind a lot lately. That may seem totally neurotic, considering he is just 25 months old, but my mother taught me how to read at 2 and a half. She also taught me to love to read, which I feel like is an important distinction. I hope to instill this same love of reading in Marino for 2 big reasons:

1. If you love to read, you can always entertain yourself, no matter where you are or what your financial circumstances are.

2. Even when you read for pleasure (including the chick lit I love reading in the summer), you continuously expose your mind to new things: new vocabulary, different perspectives, etc.

My mom introduced me to the book The Read Aloud Handbook. One of the key points in the book is that if reading is a pleasurable, comfortable thing for children to do with their parents, those feelings about reading will continue as the child grows into adulthood. (Another key point in the book is that the number of vocabulary words a child has been exposed to by the time they reach kindergarden is the greatest indicator of educational success throughout their life...quite a case for reading to your kids, huh?) I have great memories of sitting on my mom's lap in a rocking chair with her reading me stories. Even long after I was reading on my own, my father used to read me a chapter from a book each night, like A Cricket in Times Square, using different voices for all the characters. I loved it!

Marino is always on the move, so lately I've been attempting to read to him when he's eating (captive audience) and when he's tired. As much as I would love to have him reading all day, I make sure not to make reading a chore...I want it to be something fun he does with Mommy and Daddy, not something he HAS to do. If nothing else, it's undivided attention and he certainly loves that!

I asked my mother to write a guest blog (which I will post in the morning) about how she taught my brother and I to read as toddlers. Having not grown up with younger siblings or around children younger than me, the concepts behind teaching young children are unknown to me, so I found what my mother wrote really interesting. Hope you enjoy it!

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Back to Normal Life...

I'm feeling very thankful to be feeling well and getting back to our normal life. It's amazing the things in life we take for granted (like being healthy).

On Saturday, Marino and I went to North Beach to get together with some new and old friends. We had a great time and thankfully it was under 90 degrees! Marino enjoyed standing in the water up to his knees, but had no interest in going any further in the water unless I was holding him.

I'm starting to think that Marino may be introverted in the same way I am. I have lots of friends who I love spending time with, but I always need plenty of quiet/me time in a day or else I feel totally drained. Marino seems to be the same way. We were having lots of fun at the beach but after a couple hours, he announced "Go home now. Bye bye everybody!" It's interesting to see his personality develop and him express his desires/needs more. There's definitely a delicate balance, I feel, between being respectful of his wishes and setting boundaries and rules. I imagine that next year at this time, this will be less of a struggle, as we understand and know each other better.

Friends at North Beach: Nicholas, Sydney, Natalie, Emily, Morgan and Lily (Marino was not compliant for this picture taking)

Morgan is too cute!
Trying on Nicholas' sunglasses
Hanging out at North Beach
Sunday, Marino and I went over to visit my Aunt Kerry, who had 2 surgeries last week, poor thing. Kerry's best friend, Marietta, was visiting from California and it was great to see her for the first time in several years and finally meet her son, Christopher, who is 10 years old. Christopher is great: sweet, great with kids and animals and very bright. He's an only child and I asked him how he felt about being an only child and he told me he loves it.

Here's Marino giving Aunt Kerry a big hug
Snuggling with Marietta
Bonding with Christopher, who Marino thought was very cool. He kept saying "He's boy!"
He kept mimicking whatever Christopher was doing
Big hug for Marietta (isn't she gorgeous?)