Sunday, April 29, 2012
Saturday, April 28, 2012
Friday, April 20, 2012
As always, here are 5 special reasons I am loving my boy this week:
4. Marino loves to say to Evan and I "Let's hug achother [each other]. Let's all 3 of us hug achother."
3. I woke up the other morning and blew my nose, apparently too loudly. "You scared me!" Marino said. "Sorry," I said, "why were you scared?" Marino said "Because you're freaking me out!"
2. Evan left at the same time the other morning as Marino and I. While we were on the highway, Marino said "Where is Daddy's car? I can't see him." "He's in one of the other lanes. You have to look for him." Marino asked "So, we're going Daddy hunting?"
1. Last night I got home late and Marino and Evan were outside. Marino stopped before we all went inside. "Come on, Marino" said Evan. "Wait, I'm wishing on that star" he said.
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Monday was our last day of Spring Break. In the morning, we got together for a playdate with our friends The Richmond's, who we met back when Marino and Hayden were neighbors in the NICU. Today they are almost 4 and it's hard to believe they were ever so fragile and tiny!
Friday, April 13, 2012
On Friday morning, we headed over to Meadowside Nature Center for a celebration of their 40th anniversary. This was my first time there and I'd like to go back sometime to check things out when there's a little less going on there. This being Spring Break, there were hundreds of people there (I think even the staff was surprised by the volume of visitors). It was very fun, though - they did a great job of having activities for every age.
5. The other day in the car, Marino pointed at a Ride-On bus (public transit) and said "Mommy, I want to ride on that bus right there and go to my running by myself. You can pick me up later in Rockville city."
4. Last night, Marino and I went to a birthday party at a bounce house place. The boy loves bounce houses. It was so fun seeing him running and jumping with a giant smile on his face, saying over and over "That was so fun!!"
3. Last week when we were on our way to New Jersey to visit Sonia and the girls, Marino said "I'm going to give the girls a big hug and say 'hug me little girls!'".
2. Evan and Marino saw a commercial for a My Little Pony cartoon yesterday. Evan told Marino how I used to like My Little Ponies when I was a kid. "Well, I don't like ponies," Marino said,"I like someone who can handle bad guys."
1. After Spring Break, Marino complained the whole way to school that he didn't want to go. As soon as we got there, he and his friends were all so excited to see each other. "Look, it's Marino!" they said when he came in the door. It was really sweet to see all these little boys so excited to see each other.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
We started potty training when Marino turned 3 in August. Peeing was fairly easy. He likes standing up to pee and he never really objected to our suggestions to go. Going on his own, that was more of a challenge. In his defense, we had a lot going on in the first few months - his brother was here for a couple weeks, he changed preschools twice - these are big things in a 3 year old's life and daily routine. We didn't really push him too hard early on.
Once he started attending his current preschool, one of his teachers (mom of a 4 year old) figured out the only way he would remember to go pee on the potty was to have him go without diapers AND underwear during the day. However, Marino's school is VERY Montessori, and as such, they don't like to push the kids to do things they object to. This meant the PM care teachers weren't willing (initially) to leave him without diapers, so he would just pee in his diapers during the afternoon (as well as in the potty, when he was asked). We realized that, if given the option, he was always going to choose to pee in a diaper. And by December, we still hadn't had any success getting him to poop in the potty. On the weekends, we would leave off his diaper/pull-ups all day until overnight. And, of course, he would wait until then to poop.
I learned fairly quickly that rewards were not going to work with him. He would use the potty, claim his reward, and go right back to peeing his pants. He also would manipulate his time on the potty to avoid going to bed, get extra attention, etc. I can't tell you how many hours Evan and I spent in the bathroom with him...he would insist he needed to go but 45 minutes would go by and he would just be playing around sitting on the potty. Anytime he actually needed to go (and this is true even now that he's fully potty trained), he would immediately use the potty. If he asks me to read him a story on the potty now, I know he's just trying to avoid going to bed.
In late December, we decided to forgo diapers and pull-ups all together, even for naps and overnight. We had 2 weeks without preschool around Christmas, so even though we were traveling, we wanted to put the extra time into potty training. He was still resistant to pooping in the potty. He would hold it to the point of being in pain - he'd be jumping up down and making these horrible faces. Clearly, he was uncomfortable. When we did get him to sit on the potty, he would panic and cry until this hard, bloody mess came out. He was holding it up to 7 days at a time - this is a kid who was previously going twice a day.
POOPING AND SUCCESS
The first thing we did was use suppositories to clean him out. You know your kid is in pain when they are thankful for the suppository. Next, we started giving him Benefiber tablets. It took a few days for these to kick in, but when they did, he quickly figured out there was no more holding it. We both learned that the hard way, but it didn't take long for him to start requesting the potty. After a couple of painless potty trips (with him telling us, in a surprised voice "It doesn't hurt!"), the whole seven month ordeal was over. We stopped the Benefiber and he's not had a poop accident since he's been potty trained (end of January). Pee accidents happen on occassion (once a week, maybe), usually overnight. But he's at the point where he goes completely on his own, however, flushing, hand washing and wiping require some reminders from us.
Honestly, I had moments where it seemed completely impossible, but now it's easy to forget that it was ever a struggle, since it seems like second nature. For anyone currently dealing with this frustration, don't give up! Once you know your child is ready, be consistent and stand your ground. Whether our kids like it or not, using the potty is a necessity for adulthood.